Human is a weird and complicated creature. If you are not a keen observer of the quirks of human psychology managing social life can be tricky. By learning these psychological hacks in life you can get things done easily.
Understanding these simple psychological hacks about how your mind works, you can give yourself a huge leg up when it comes to succeeding at finding love, work, and getting what you want in life.
Mastering these basic psychological hacks will also give you a big advantage over most other people, who navigate the world on instinct and emotion alone.
Psychological hacks in life
1. Go to your managers with solutions instead of problems
“Don’t bring me just a problem without a solution.” You can call it a leadership cliché. Mostly you are on the receiving end of a harried manager barking these words at you. You may even have said them yourself to your subordinates.
Almost everyone person brings problems but very few people bring solutions. I always say to myself that try not to complain unless you can offer up a solution. Instead of just a problem if you’re the one who bringing solutions you will be noticed and rewarded for it.
2. Try shutting up
We have 2 ears and one mouth to listen twice as we speak. If you feel like someone gives you a lousy answer to a question, stay quiet and keep eye contact and they’ll usually feel pressured to keep talking and reveal more.
The key to pulling out information lies in things like the “control” question, where you ask something to which you already know the answer to find out whether the person is lying, uninformed or not paying attention. Now there’s the “persistent” question in which you ask the same thing in different ways to “explore all facets of the desired information.” This trick always works try using.
3. Psycological trick to make them like you
The Ben Franklin effect is a proposed psychological phenomenon: When a person does a favor for someone he is more likely to do another favor. If a person receives favor from someone they are less likely to return the favor. An explanation for this would be that we think internally that the reason that we helped them was that we liked them. On the other hand, we tend to hate the person with whom we did wrong.
4. Call them by their name
Using a person’s name in a conversation acknowledges their identity it also boosts their self-esteem. By just recognizing that they exist, you have done a great favor to them. The most charming people have this habit of using your name a lot. When you meet a stranger, help yourself remember their name by saying it a lot in conversation which has the added effect of making them like you.
But be careful don’t do it too much you may appear to be attempting to manipulate them, which likely to have a reverse effect. Watch them carefully Does it relax them? Do they smile? Or do they look a little irritated? Keep it natural and simple.
5. Excitement is contagious
Excitement is obviously contagious. So what makes excitement contagious? It is because humans unconsciously mimic the facial expressions, attitudes, mannerisms, and other behaviors of other person behavior. It is called the chameleon effect. Psychologists believe that reason for mimicking others is because it has the potential to make people like us better.
Are you nervous about something? Don’t worry cover it up with excitement and the people around you will key in and reflect that excitement. And soon you won’t be nervous anymore because of all the good vibes.
6. Touch them a little
From the moment we born to the final days of our lives, touch acts as a central aspect of the human experience. Touch impacts our physical, mental and emotional health, and it literally helps to shape the way we go through our lives.
A touch is a powerful tool. Waiters who learn the art of unobtrusive touching are tipped more. When talking to someone lightly touch them on the thigh, arm, or knee to emphasize your points which will make them comfortable around you.
7. Be an Active listener
Effective listening is learnable, and it is one of the most important skill-sets which people should worry about. Effective listening leads to better understanding which helps the speaker to relax and eases tension. Though you might not expect it, helps them think more clearly too! This results in better easier collaborations and more fulfilling relationships.
People often not listen rather wait for their turn. Ask and clarify your questions, maintain eye contact, and make remarks like uh-huh and really. Talk Less(more essential) Say More, that is how to make your words sensational.
8. Learn the pause
“Um”, “uh”, “mm-hmm” and interruption are not killers of conversation, but they are lubricants. Pause is a sign that something important is coming. Pause is an incredibly powerful tool in public speaking, it provides several benefits to the speaker as well as to the audience.
According to research, the average professional speaks 150 words per minute. According to Colorado State University, the average person thinks at a rate of at least 4 times faster. So not surprisingly, while giving a speech, our perception of time is often off. And we tend to speak fast and with fewer pauses.
The optimal rate of speech is 2.5 words per second and you should pause 4-5 times a minute. By adding pauses in speech it will add value to it and people can easily follow what you want to communicate.
9. Make them think you compromised
The word compromise is used in two senses, one is positive and the other negative. The positive sense of compromise is finding a common ground with another person. In reaching a mutual agreement about a difficult course of action affecting both of you.
Whenever you need something always ask for more and then negotiate accordingly. Say for example you want $10 start out by asking for $50. When the person refuses, ask them for the $10 instead to “help you along” they feel bad for refusing you and will jump on the opportunity to give you 10 bucks.
10. Wait until they’re tired
When we’re tired, our mental energy drops. We’re less able to perform higher cognitive activities like weighing pros and cons in a decision. If you want to get someone to agree to something they’d normally refuse, wait until they’re tired before dropping the bomb.
This tric always helped me at my childhood when I wanted something, I used to ask it when my father usually return from office. He used to be so tired that my wishes usually gets granted.
11. Don’t tell them they’re wrong
There can be multiple possibilities for someone can be wrong: they might be motivated to think something that is not true, they may have false or out dated information, or they may be partially right. Whatever the case, the art of telling someone they are wrong involves convincing them with the facts, reason, and logic in a manner that eases them into, rather than is aggressive about, the realization that they are mistaken
Instead acknowledge their stance, state where you have common ground, and articulate your own points. This will make them much more likely to listen to you.
12. Just nod
It is said that you don’t need to speak a word when you can just nod. Nodding is a universal sign of agreement right. When you nod in front of someone they’ll start to nod as well. This turns them to an agreement state of mind and sets the groundwork to allow you to ask for favors.
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Human psychology is an interesting topic to study. Human being is a social animal and it evolve mimicing and improvising. Your success depend on how keen observer you are and how you put your thoughts in stories. If you mix your observations with the stories at correct proportion you get anythong done.
Please suggest in comments section if have any more psychological hacks.
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