“Love. is an experience. It’s an experience that is mental, emotional, physical, sensual, sensory. It’s all-encompassing. That’s part of why it’s so grand because it doesn’t leave any part of us untouched.”
–Esther Perel
Such a beautiful quote by Esther. Last week I was listening to the TED talk The secret to desire in a long-term relationship by Esther Perel and decided to write this post.
Just think of an experience, a moment in your life where you felt a deep sense of security. A moment when you felt safe, content, satisfied, more than successful. Maybe a moment where you’re crying on someone else’s shoulder, and you know you can really let go because they’re there to sustain you. Or a moment when you’re saying goodbye to a dying member of your family, and you know that you’re holding each other all the way to the last breath. In a moment when you complete your unfinished painting when you fulfill your passion. Or a moment when you’re holding a newborn in your arm, a place that you just felt, “I’m enough. There’s nothing more needed during this moment.” It’s safe, it’s trusting, it’s reliable, it’s dependable.
And when you have that moment, what was it like for you? And how did you experience it in your body? What does it feel like, physically, when we embody security, trust, safety, familiarity, continuity, belonging?
It’s Love.
Me: Mummy!!!
Mummy: what happened?
Me: Nothing
Mummy: 😒
Sometimes you want to call your mother, just like that no need of any reason. You feels like listening to her voice or just look at her face, you feel better.
A mother’s instinct to guard her offspring begins from the instant she knows she is pregnant. Over the subsequent nine months, although she is yet to ascertain her child, he or she becomes the foremost precious thing within the world. Babies have a particular survival instinct. They are born with a handful of strategies or “tricks” that encourage the adults around them to protect and care for them. But the connection between mother and child is different. It goes beyond the baby’s survival instinct.
A healthy relationship, based on unconditional love, affection and respect, makes for happy children.
It is said that best friends are the siblings god forgot to give us. Friendship gives you a soft-corner for your friend. You think of your friend favourably and enjoy being in his/her company. You feel relaxed and not lonely in because of your friends.
“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind.
“Pooh!” he whispered.
“Yes, Piglet?”
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw.
“I just wanted to be sure of you.”
“Love” is the essence of sweetness to any kind of relationship, be it a friendship or family or anything else, or just a passion. When you love, you feel responsible and attached to something. You feel a sense of devotion for your loved one.
The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. Love gives you a reason and a motive of life. It is actually the feeling of love that gives you a satisfaction in your relationship.
So what do you think love for you? Do let me know in comments below.
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